What do guests at weddings wear these days? I really don't know. I haven't been to a wedding in awhile. I'm going to one at the end of this month.

I feel a bit of pressure to look really good at the wedding, especially since the people getting married and their friends are a few years younger than me. I have in mind what I want to look like and what I want to wear. But maybe that mental image of myself is totally unachievable...

I'm looking for a white, pale, or pastel dress that falls past my knees... with sheer layers and thin straps. I didn't find anything like that at the stores yesterday. I tried a few on anyway... and did not look good. Is it the dresses? Or is it my body? Three-way mirrors are of the devil.

I haven't bought a dress in nearly three years.

I don't even know if what I'm looking for is appropriate for the wedding. Maybe it's not dressy enough. Maybe it's too dressy. Do I have to wear a dress, or would a dressy skirt and top do? What would you wear?